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"Jealousy and Gay Relationships"

by Susie and Otto Collins

Since we primarily write our material from a heterosexual framework, we recently received this question about our "No More Jealousy" course...

"I do want to deal with my jealousy...just like I worked hard to recover from alcoholism some years ago...I used whatever I could find....yet, in reading your material, I was bluntly stopped....you continually referred to problems with the opposite sex....that tells me that either you trivialize gay relationships, or your material is not suitable to help me...I would like to know ...."

Here's our reply...

Thanks for your e-mail and we're glad that you're interested in overcoming your issues around jealousy.

From what you said in your comments to us it looks like you may have made some assumptions about us and our work that may not be correct.

We certainly don't trivialize gay relationships and the material we offer on overcoming jealousy may be more suitable to you than you realize.

Yes, we do continually refer in our descriptions of "No More Jealousy" book and audio program as they relate to problems with the opposite sex because that's where we're coming from in our own relationship and in most of our teachings.

In our experience, the same issues and challenges that heterosexual couples face concerning jealousy are also the same issues that gay and lesbian couples face.

Yes, we understand that gay and lesbian couples are faced with some very unique challenges that heterosexual couples may not be faced with but when it comes to jealousy, the issues and how you solve them are the same.

Whether you are in a gay or straight relationship--and jealousy is an problem--you are usually dealing with low self-esteem issues, differences in how each wants to interact in the world and unclear agreements.

You are dealing with patterns, beliefs and mind chatter that can be changed.

We're convinced that if you could open yourself to a place that you could forget the language that we use in our writings and teachings about jealousy and anywhere that we discuss male-female relationships, just simply insert the word "partner" there or whatever name you are more comfortable with using -- --we think that you would find our information to be an outstanding resource for you in overcoming your jealousy issues.

You see, jealousy is about fear about what may or may not happen in a given relationship or situation and there are also many elements surrounding trust when jealousy rears its ugly head. These issues are universal no matter what kind of relationship you're talking about including gay and lesbian relationships.

Our recommendation is that you give the information a try... our program is called "No More Jealousy" and it is the best-selling program in the world on overcoming jealousy. As we said earlier, just replace the language with language you are more comfortable with any time we talk about heterosexual couples and we think the information will be very valuable to you.

If you're interested in the information and a free mini-course-- -- here's the website to go to www.NoMoreJealousy.com