Jealousy- Consequences of Jealousy

The Consequences for Holding onto Jealousy
by Susie and Otto Collins

The first step to healing jealousy in your life is to become
conscious and aware of the challenges, problems and damage
that is being created because of either your jealousy or
another person's jealous thoughts and actions.

Now, this may seem obvious because you've been living
with it but we invite you to take a conscious look at what
havoc is being caused by jealousy in your life.

We invite you to look beyond the obvious situations and
person that jealousy whirls around because it usually shows
up in more than one area of your life and with more than
one person.

It might be that you have been jealous, to various degrees
of the intimate partners you have had in your life. It might
also show up in work relationships, when other people
seem to get raises or promotions or perks and you don't.
It might be that you are jealous of the way other people
look, their talents or the amount of money they have.

You may be able to identify with several of these examples.
The point is to become aware of the pain that is happening
to you, your spouse, your co-workers, or family members
because jealousy is being acted out in some form or another.

Even if you try to bury your jealousy and never verbalize it
to anyone, you have to realize that you are building walls and
separation between you and other people until you deal with
it and heal what's underneath.

Whether you requested this mini-course because you are
jealous or because someone in your life is jealous, begin to
ask yourself what is happening as a result of this behavior.

Take a moment right now and make a list of how your relationships
are impacted because of jealousy, from the obvious to the
not-so-obvious.

Your healing can begin only when you start to become aware
of how you and your relationships are being affected by
jealous actions, words and thoughts.

As you make your list, remember to breathe and to know
that this is the first step in your healing process.