Jealousy, Cheating and Lying- How to Know if Your Partner is Cheating Just Like Your Ex Did- Overcome Jealousy

"My Ex Cheated on Me. How Can I Know if My Current Partner is Doing the Same?"
By Susie and Otto Collins

Stephanie has been watching her boyfriend Clay like a hawk. A lot of the time everything seems fine, but then he seems to check out another woman.

When Stephanie see Clay flirt or look at another woman, it sends her into a jealous tailspin. She keeps waiting for Clay to have an affair...just like her ex-husband did.

Have you been betrayed in a past relationship and now find yourself worrying and wondering if your current partner will do the same thing?

You probably don't want to go through the pain and heartbreak again.

This expectation that your current partner will cheat, based mostly on what happened in a past relationship, can cause a lot of inner turmoil for you. Your jealousy and suspicions can drive a wedge between you and you current mate.

But the questions remain. Will this man or woman have an affair just like your ex did?

We can certainly understand how such questions could have formed in your mind. We can also understand that jealousy might come up, because of your past heartbreak.

We urge you to take steps to release the past and become very clear about what's really going on THIS relationship...especially if you'd like this relationship to continue and thrive.

Make completions with your past.
We all carry around attachments to our past. Many of us approach life from the foundation that has been set by experiences we had long, long ago-- maybe even when we were very young.

The trouble with past attachments is that they can cloud the way that we view our current situation. We might believe that all men will lie and cheat because that's how we've experienced men in the past.

The negative effects of such a belief is that even though this has been our experience thus far, it isn't necessarily true today or in the future.

A first step in overcoming jealousy and determining if your suspicions are accurate are to make sure your vision is not clouded by the past.

Some people find it helpful to create a ritual around the past relationship or pain that they are holding onto.

One idea is to find or make a physical representation of whatever it is you are wanting to release and then letting it go. You might choose some old pictures of you and your ex and burn them in a firepit, for example.

Write down your intentions for this ritual so that you are clear about why you are doing this.

Stephanie finds some letters that her husband sent her just after she discovered that he was having an affair. She writes on a piece of paper, "I free myself from painful images of the betrayal and breakup. I free myself for the close and loving relationship I want with Clay."

She rips the letters into shreds and then burns them in her fireplace keeping her intention in her awareness.

Come into the present moment and look at what's happening now.
It is far easier to be present in your current relationship after you've made completions with your past pain.

However, you might be accustomed to looking at what's going on now
from the vantage point of the past. Learn how to come back to the present moment when you've drifted back to the past (or also to a future that you are worried will happen).

When you realize that you are thinking thoughts such as, "Will he cheat just like my ex did?" or "I'll be betrayed again by this girlfriend and end up alone," take a slow deep breath.

Remind yourself that you are thinking thoughts, you don't know what is actually going on now or what will go on in the future.

Your next step is to find out what's actually happening in this relationship.

We advise our coaching clients who feel jealous and suspicious to notice when inconsistencies arise.

If your partner says he or she will be at a certain place with particular people but then later talks about being on the other side of town instead, pay attention.

If your mate significantly changes the way that he or she dresses, exercises, eats, talks, answers the phone, reads e-mail-- even his or her hairstyle and smell-- pay attention.

Keep a record of these inconsistencies so that you can know what the evidence indicates.

You might find that your suspicions are still more rooted in the past. In this case, take further steps to make completions and practice living in the present moment.

You might find that there are many inconsistencies in your mate's behavior that lead you to suspect him or her even more. From there, you can choose to gather more information to know for sure.

For specific ideas to help you know for sure whether or not your man is lying and cheating, visit http://www.IsYourManaLiar.com