Jealousy and Infidelity Information and Advice- Learn to Tell the Difference Between the Signs of Cheating and the Signs of Jealousy

How to Tell the Signs of Jealousy from the Signs of Cheating in Your Love Relationship
By Susie and Otto Collins

If you suspect that your spouse or partner is cheating, you might feel worried, angry, fearful and confused.

If you've confronted your mate about what you think is going on and you've accused him or her of having an affair, you might have come away not knowing what you can believe.

Perhaps your partner's defense of him or herself made sense...and maybe it didn't.

A difficult situation can become even more difficult if you've ever been labeled jealous (by yourself, your partner or another person). You might find yourself discounting your suspicions because you have a history of being jealous.

It might be the case that your partner is not actually lying or cheating; your jealousy is leading you to think that he or she is.

Or, it might be the case that your mate is having an affair and lying to you.

Don't you owe it to yourself to clear up all of this confusion and internal upset once and for all?

We know, it's not always as simple as this.

If you were to discover that your partner is, indeed, having an affair, it's nearly impossible to then pretend or deny that your relationship is not what you previously thought it to be.

Knowing reliable information that proves your partner is cheating would probably lead you to question whether you will stay in or leave this relationship or marriage.

These are not easy decisions to make.

So we encourage you to ask yourself if you are truly ready to know the truth. At this point, you don't know what's really going on; your future is somewhat up in the air.

The difference between signs of cheating and signs of jealousy...
To help you through this difficult and worrisome time, we are going to share with you a few differences between the signs of cheating and the signs of jealousy.

Signs of jealousy:

When jealousy is at work, most of the "information" is coming from within the person who is feeling suspicious. There is very little or no tangible evidence in the actions of the jealous person's partner.

Quite often, the jealous person will have low self esteem and/or reacts to situations in his or her present relationship from the perspective of past relationship experiences and hurts.

Signs of cheating:

Inconsistencies-- Start to pay attention to inconsistencies between what your partner says he or she will (or has been) doing and what actually happens.

For example, if your mate claims that he or she was on one side of town picking up groceries yet he or she lets slip to you about getting stuck in a traffic jam on another side of town, take note.

Pay attention to the information that you're being given and ask yourself if it logically makes sense.
Unexplained and significant changes-- If you notice that your mate is starting to dress vastly different than usual, has turned over a new fitness and diet leaf or has begun to wear cologne, it's not necessarily a sign of cheating.

He or she would probably share with you the reasons or inspiration behind these changes. However, if these changes are made with no explanation to you, they could signal that infidelity is going on.
Secretiveness-- Has your partner started taking phone calls in private or checking the number of the caller before answering in front of you?

If so, this kind of secretiveness could indicate that he or she is having an affair. Be on the lookout for these and other forms of secretive behavior.
Accusations or Defensiveness-- You might find that your mate has become more accusatory of your behavior or motives, even when those accusations make no merit.

He or she may get defensive quickly or easily when asked casual questions or change the subject in order to avoid particular topics.

Please note: In and of themselves, these signs do not indicate with 100% accuracy whether infidelity is happening or whether your jealousy is clouding your view. Use this information as a tool and be sure to check out what you are perceiving by gathering more information.

For more specific ideas and suggestions for finding out the truth, check out our new program: Where There's Smoke There's Fire: How To Tell If Your Man's a Cheating Liar.